A Lesson on Look’n Good
26 Mar
Friend: Is that your picture on the wall? [referring to my bridal picture]
Me: Yes!
Friend: Wow… ummm… you look… wow, how do I say…
Me: Sexy? [*giggles*]
Friend: Well, yeah… you look so… MODERN! You look so good, so modern…
Me: Well, thank you!
Friend: Yeah, you really let yourself go didn’t you?
Me: 
Huh… I guess so… 
There is a certain respect you have to give to your really blunt friends who just say it how it is. I mean, I don’t want to hear EVERYTHING, but THAT I needed to hear. The old me wanted to crawl into a corner and just feel incredibly embarrassed and sad because I knew she was telling the truth. I haven’ t always been wearing make-up. I do, sometimes get so wrapped up in work in the morning I completely forget to get ready for the day or don’t get ready until afternoon.
The past couple years I have been going through some pretty intense changes in my life. I relate it to a drawing that is in development – that gets messed up. You can’t always just erase and adjust where necessary without still showing flaws. Sometimes you have to give a complete re haul and start again from the beginning so you can do it perfect. That’s what I’ve done to myself – completely went raw, tore out all the yucky stuff from the inside out and began again from scratch.
I used to be SO SO SO into make-up. SO much I was studying all I could about how to be a make-up artist. Studied Make-Up artists at the mall and on movie sets. I think somewhere along the line the past couple years where I have been changing myself for the better, I lost the interest in make-up. It’s no longer important to me, other than having fun dressing up and put on to feel good. That’s it. I have my natural hair color, I used to color my hair blond. But it’s 3 times the price to get my hair done here as it is in UT where I used to live. So I let my hair go natural and I actually like it better – only because I feel I have attached it as a representation of my new self. I fear feeling like my old self if I go back to blond. I just don’t think being blond really shows how I feel. Who knows, I may change my mind later when I feel even stronger.
What I learned after I really pondered about my friends comment is that: Looking good is just as important as doing and being good. Looking your best is a representation to those around you of how you feel inside about yourself.
So, if I’m feeling good inside, I should show it! Clean myself up and look my best!
The moral of the story is, I could have taken offense, been insulted or thought she was being rude. She wasn’t. She was giving good advise.
So, Thank you friend for the bold and blunt reminder – that it’s important to not only look my best for others, and for my husband – but also for myself!
I now have added another goal to my list of daily self reminders. Dress up every morning even if I’m staying in for the day- and show a representation of how I’m feeling for the day or how I want to feel for the day. 
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You really do look beautiful in that bridal pic. Way to go – not taking offense but just listening to the comment made and taking in from it what you felt was necessary. That can be a difficult thing to do.
Thank you Kristi!
♥