Ouch
5 Nov
They’re just words… wrong. There’s a reason why we’re told time and time again to watch what we say, don’t judge, speak with Charity. Even those who you are close to – you don’t know everything about and one single phrase can cut right through them, and you may not even know/realize it.
What inspired this post was a post by Nie Nie she recently wrote, “Do you still see me?” It broke my heart because I know this feeling all too well. The words spoken to her weren’t from a loved one, but from a total stranger. What I’m referring to in how I can relate, happens to be unintentional cutting words from someone related to me. I’m sure the stranger wasn’t out to hurt Nie Nie, as I’m sure the relative wasn’t out to hurt my feelings.What happened to me, wasn’t a comment directed towards me, but towards a total stranger. My relative had an observation, it was criticism towards the stranger – and I thought in my mind, “You have no idea that I’m struggling with the same thing, and here you are judging them. “
I have a friend who feels she can’t speak to her own Mom because all the time her Mom judges other people for their faults. Just not understanding why ‘they’ would do ‘that’. Seeing the ‘dirt’ before the beauty of the flower so to speak. Instead of seeing how much they’ve grown to be someone better, she can’t believe where they came from. My friend would love to seek help and guidance from her Mom, but she’s SO afraid of her Mom judging her and not understanding because of everything she hears from her Mom all the time about other people. How sad…
“Judge not, that ye be not judged.
“For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged.” (Matt. 7:1–2.)
We all have our flaws, trials we are all working on. Weaknesses. Whether it be a physical weakness, or a mental weakness. We all have a challenge that most likely will effect us our entire lives. We all have consistent work to do. That is why it is so vital that we continue to be missionaries unto others, and doing so – it means watching our words carefully. So we can be approachable. So important to work on that, because we could have someone who we love SO MUCH, a friend or a family member – who needs help – but is so afraid to ask for it – for fear of judgment. What example are we portraying to them all? Someone who finds flaws, or someone who loves unconditionally ? Their weakness could be your strength, you could be the key to their happiness … are you portraying love or judgment?
The best advice I can think of, is to stop yourself as you go to tell an “interesting” story, or an “interesting” observation about someone else, and think in your mind, “Is what I am about to say, something that Jesus would say in the same way?” Whether you be around friends, family or a complete stranger (who could, later down the road – become a friend) – all eyes are on us ALL the time, young & old.
I’m guilty of gossip, and I know this is something I can refine in my speech as well. Let’s all press forward with an effort to speak with more love and compassion, and most importantly with effort and zeal to be a friend /or a family member who radiates an unconditional love – just as Jesus would. 
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Well said. Plus, that song has got to be my all time favorite. Makes me cry every time. I think I should listen to it every morning and then I might “always remember Him”.