Comments on: Ch. 3 "Friends"

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:21:17 +0000

Thank you for understanding Sue. It totally hurts, when you’ve invested so much of your heart into a friend, and then one major life change and they split! It’s good to have family, and always fun to make new friends. You can only hope they last But live in the moment and appreciate what/who you have! ♥

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:19:24 +0000

Ladyravenna — Good words of wisdom: to always take time to appreciate what you have in the moment. I agree

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:18:05 +0000

Thank you for understanding Em. Also, thank you for being a life-long friend! You’re one of the few childhood buddies of mine who has always been willing to stay in touch. ♥ It has meant a lot to me.

By: Sue Anderson

Sue Anderson — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:13:37 +0000

It’s hard to lose track of old friends. In my experience, it seems like people are just wired differently in that way. There are those who are able to maintain connections long-term, even when people physically move away from their immediate sphere, and there are those who can’t seem to hold on to a friendship once they don’t physically see or hang out with that person regularly. Clearly, you are one of those who can maintain a long-distance friendship, and that’s a good quality to have.

So you’re right in your resolve not to take it personally. But that doesn’t mean you still don’t miss/mourn the friend, right? That’s what a good friend does!

By: ladyravenna

ladyravenna — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 18:33:33 +0000

I understand your disappointments with friendship you had with your friends. My understanding is that families sometimes are there for us while friends tend to come and go. Sometimes families can be good and supportive while other families are not.

For instance, all my relatives live in Italy and Miami, FLA. I get to see my father and relatives in Miami only once a year. Am I close to them? No since I have my own life here in the Pacific NW. Plus I have different kind of lifestyle.

Sometimes I feel frustrated with a few friends, whom I cannot trust. Still I have a hope that I meet new friends, so that way I can build up true friendships in the near future.

It is also true that a few of my friends, who are still happily married and it is somewhat hard for me to be friends with them since I am divorced and a single mother. And I have experienced Domestic Violence in a previous marriage.

The important thing is that I focus by taking care of myself, my son and my cat – Como. Also, I have tasks, which I want to accomplish such as taking care of my home, yard, and home businesses. I also constantly remember to count my blessings based on what I have.

My advice for you to be happy of what you have such as you have a husband and family members to share with. Perhaps you may meet new friends in the near future. I hope that you continue by counting your blessings based on what you have.

By: Emme Packer

Emme Packer — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 04:50:17 +0000

I hear ya beck. For me it’s the “single syndrome”. All my friends are married and it seems hard for us to get together. I kinda feel like I can’t be part of the group since I’m not married or dating anyone. Of course, it’s true that obviously it’d be awkward to have friends and their husbands and then just me. And we are in different places in life, so it makes complete sense. But it still sucks. Ha ha.